Are you Alone even in togetherness ?

Not lonely but alone. I want to look into the aspect of me getting hurt , want to look at it more attentively when it hits me. You get hurt and what follows is a range of emotions based on the individual psyche or past impressions as memories from previous experiences, a reaction whose sole purpose is to sustain the feeling of hurt. The sustenance is due to feeling of incompleteness and is because of the continuous series of thoughts wanting to fill this incompleteness, so it exist. Hurt we think will go away with time, but it doesnt, it deposits only in the subconsciousness. To eradicate hurt, is to feel it and be calm and then in that tranquility a question will arise, whether the hurt caused is intentional? or perceived notion. Even if it is intentional, how can an unwanted experience, memory or a thought seek in without our notice, should it be encouraged? Being alert, attentive, observant will only catch the escaping hurt which takes the form of either reaction or distraction.

Eventhough human beings live in a society and in togetherness yet they live in crowded isolations, because of a self which they are made to have, build and nurture because of dumping of others insecurities in form of opinion, advice and comments as parents, as elders , as advisors and well wishers. The idea of wanting to be someone is picked up by the fresh innocent uncorrupted mind , and sets the course and the pace of living always overshadowed by fear about an illusionary future and the idea that whatver we are isnt enough or that we should always become something.

In being together, are we wanting and trying to understand the differences among us or understand what is common or only just strengthen and assert the idea of who we are?. That which is common among us has brought this togetherness to understand the differences.To relate is being willing to understand the differences and move to the path of acceptance or change. That which is common is already related, do you also see it?