Living in Relationship

Relationship is an alive thing, it is about the present. Very very live, and is real and will show itself when you look for it , just like the beating of the heart. It is of the present , a continuous river. It has to be lived not studied. It has to applied not acquired. It has to be felt not possessed. It is about wisdom not knowledge. Many of the books on reviving / rescuing relationship thus for a novice or an inexperienced person would be just a storehouse of unnecesary knowledge leading to confusion and conflicts , for its application would be more a robotic act and not out of spontaneity. Relationship is a mirror , you would come to know about yourself first and how the self relates with the other. To be in a relationship is to be vulnerable but also unconditional without dependencies. The greatest obstacle to it is the constant fear of wanting to sustain it and in that process there is a great loss of energy spent in nourshing the fear and personal insecurity. Relationship is something profound and is the basis which we built everything around us, the friends, family, society and this world and that seed with all its beauty needs to be understood and unshaken, if not brings crisis, conflicts and miseries within and around. Relationship is inevitable but yet it is still a choice because one could only try to evade and escape but cannot really. In this interconnected and interdependent world, everyone is in some form or the other already related. The relationships we choose from are essentially not to satisfy our pleasures for pleasure is based on time, but to understand us much better in light of others. Relationship is understanding one being as two and not two wanting to become one. Relationship is not about becoming , it is about being , it is already is. Trying to act to satisfy or work out a relationship is a wrong idea of the mind, it will eventually realise and understand the beauty and depth of the inner being by which we are all related already.

You cannot be related to yourself. You cannot be related to your thoughts for your thoughts is you and no way different. Relationship is in duality, the self is , just is. Humanity in its basic fundamental core form is already related for it is one homogenous mass, the division and plurality is created by the process of thought , which we get so attached and end up building strong self images wanting to seperate and uniquely find a place against natures well founded harmony, thus creating this mass chaos and conflicts and living in self satisfying pocketed relationships of groups, sects, religions and nationalities. Relationships should be of freedom and completeness not a platform for self satisfying desires and pleasures. Its about us , not about me.